You take a bite of your pasta that tastes like wet cardboard layered with white glue. Giving up, you unwrap the brownie and chomp down only to wonder what they used to color it brown, because it certainly isn’t chocolate. Your travel experience, whether the purpose is to get from point A to point B or to enjoy the sights along the way vary as much as people’s feelings about travel. I know people who won’t get on a plane under any circumstances and folks who would drop anything and walk out the door given a free ticket. Over the years and miles I’ve learned a few things that have made travel immensely more pleasurable and something I look forward to regardless of the circumstances.

Packing

When you’re packing or preparing, remember that if you bring your ID (or passport if international), a form of payment like a credit card, and your cell phone you can take care of pretty much anything you forget or any issue that might come up. People drive themselves crazy trying to make sure they didn’t forget anything. While it’s certainly annoying to forget your swimsuit or USB battery pack these are things you can pretty easily replace. Focus your attention on remembering these three things, and chill about everything else.

Leaving Home

Leave your house cleaned up and your bed made. Normally I’m fine with a bit of a messy house and I basically never make the bed. Trust me when I say I’ve experienced this both ways. I’ve come home to a messy house plenty of times, and I’ve come home to a clean house a bunch of times. It feels remarkably better to come home to a clean house and especially a made (preferably with fresh sheets the night before you leave) bed. Even more so if you get home late in the day or evening. Before I leave I look around and say “do I want to see that exactly as I left it when I get home?

Time

Leave more time. It sucks to get up early, it sucks to spend more time at the airport than necessary, it sucks to sit around waiting. But what sucks even more is missing the boat. Time, even more than money, is the currency of travel. Give yourself extra “spending money.” You can always buy things you forgot, but in a lot of cases you can’t buy more time. When you’re stuck on the freeway in a totally unexpected traffic jam there is no amount of money that is going to get you there faster.

You won’t regret getting there too early, but you’ll always regret not having left enough time for the unexpected.

Change Your Mind

Finally, adjust your mindset so that you look at travel as truly about the journey, not the destination. This is harder to do when you’re traveling for work or a very specific purpose, but it’s still good to do. Realizing that whatever happens, even if it seems like an inconvenience or a bad thing, is part and parcel of the adventure of travel. The more you embrace it, the more you’re going to enjoy your travel and the more you’re going to get out of it.

This final point relates to time being the currency of travel as well. Modern travel is nothing short of magic. That you can wake up in Rome, have a cornetto and a cappuccino, and then lay your head on a pillow in New York City is beyond anything that should even be possible. Which is to say that if you planned to fly in at 9am for an 11am meeting and you’re not going to make it that’s on you, not the fault of the unexpected three-hour delay. The fact that you didn’t get dysentery and die on your voyage is a miracle.

Like Louis CK says: “everything’s amazing and nobody is happy.” Relax and enjoy the ride.

Today is an interesting day because it marks the start of dual adventures the kind of which people rarely seem to go on anymore. Jen and I are both departing for international travel, separately.

For her part Jen is going to Italy for five weeks. The first response most people have had to this is “What for?” or “Why?” Which is odd to me because why do you need a reason to go to Italy for five weeks beyond the myriad reasons which should instantly materialize in anyone’s mind who has even a modicum of awareness of the world they live in. It’s almost as if in this modern means-tested productivity-enhanced society it’s impossible to fathom doing something without an explicit purpose.

Alas, ostensibly her purpose is to attend an intensive immersion language school to learn Italian. But really, let’s be honest, she’s doing it because we’ve specifically crafted our lives so that doing this kind of thing is only a plane ticket and a house-and-dog-sitter away so why wouldn’t you take advantage of it?

I’m going the opposite direction and getting on a plane to Manila tomorrow. I say getting on a plane not so much as a figure of speech but because literally the main purpose of this trip is because I wanted to fly on one of the last U.S.-carrier flights on the 747, which Delta happens to be operating to the Philippines.

I’ve always been an aviation buff and ever since I was a little kid lucky enough to fly on Alitalia and KLM (“Royal Dutch Airlines” in TV commercial announcer voice) routes on the iconic jumbo jet I’ve revered the 747. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that Air Force One is a 747 despite the fact that surely many other platforms would have done the job, some maybe better.

It’s hard to describe the significance of the 747. You could talk about how iconic the design is, a jet that stands out in skies full of planes that to the untrained observer all look the same. How many people could even tell you how many engines the plane they just stepped off of had? But even little kids know the distinctive upper-deck hump of the 747. It’s the Flatiron Building of jumbo jets.

You could talk about the era that the leviathan seemed to be ushering in when it first took to the sky in 1969. Sure the height of the cold war was still fresh and the thought of intercontinental ballistic missiles crossing the continents was still very much at the forefront of people’s minds, but the economies of scale that the big jet brought about opened the possibility of a world where business, prosperity, and peace would be more likely to cross those skies. Maybe it’s fitting that the era of the 747 is in its twilight after all.

You could talk about its massive proportions and literally over-the-top luxury (the upper deck is a first-class affair) match American’s typical exceptionalism and desire for bigger, faster, more. But I’ve probably talked enough about an airplane for a fitness guy.

My point is that I don’t need any reason to fly to Manila other than my love of airplanes and desire to take one last ride on one. The bonus is that I’ve created a life where not only can I do so, but I can teach a biofeedback workshop while I’m there which covers my expenses.

You can do this too. The world has changed in the past several decades and on the downside there is no longer much of a sense of loyalty, community, or responsibility from corporations and to government to ensure that people have a good life. The upside to this is that there is very likely the opportunity and possibility for you to manufacture exactly the life you want, if you take the reigns and opt out of the now defunct path that has been paved for you. Go to school, get good grades, go to college, get a job, take one vacation per year, retire with a pension doesn’t work anymore – those days are gone. (This is where I acknowledge varying degrees of privilege. If you’re reading this I’m going to wager that you have a level of privilege sufficient to more or less chart your own course. If I’m wrong, I’m wrong.)

The thing that it takes is a willingness to be unconventional and uncomfortable. To step off the beaten path and figure out how you’re going to take that knowledge, expertise, skill, and creativity that is locked up in your brain and turn it into value. Sell something you make. Consult. Teach something you’re great at to people who want to learn it. Solve a problem you see.

How does this relate to fitness? To me everything you want to do starts with the physical. There is something about transformative about knowing you’re going to do something hard every day, doing it, and then looking back on how you just did it. Physical movement and transformation begets other movement and transformation. It’s all connected.

So, I’m off to pack a bag. Wish us luck.

Last week I walked into this gym I had been a member of and said “I’d like to cancel my membership.” The manager, who I had spoken to several months prior quickly took over the interaction at the front desk.

A little background is relevant here. I joined this treadmill and tricep machine gym in the winter last year to have somewhere to run when it was too cold and icy outside. In the spring when I went in to cancel, I got the usual “Well why don’t you just suspend your account until fall, and then you might need it again.” I didn’t really want to do that as I knew exactly how it would play out, but I went along with it. The manager emailed me a follow-up and said what day I’d be billed again in the fall.

Because my bike got stolen a few weeks ago I put off the slightly-longer-than-walking-distance trip to finalize the cancellation, and so while I was at the tanning workshop the week before I missed the billing date. You got me globo gym, fair enough. I wasn’t going to ask for a refund on those dues, they pickpocketed me fair and square.

So you can imagine how I felt when the manager said, “Well, you were just billed and normally it’s a 60-day notice to cancel but you’ll just be billed one more time.”

I replied, “Look you got me with the whole suspend-and-then-cancel-it-later deal, you got one more payment out of me, I’m not asking for a refund, but if you think you’re billing me again for something I’m clearly not using you’re out of your mind.”

Her reply? “Sorry I don’t make the policies.”

I lost my shit. I won’t repeat my diatribe here, but suffice to say I pointed out that this is why people hate the gym industry, no one knows 60-days ahead of time that they want to cancel a gym membership, and if they really wanted to push it I’d walk out right then and charge it back on my card. She relented and literally said “Ok, you win, you’re all set.”

I think I was particularly incensed because of this article in the New Yorker I had read the same day. I highly recommend you read it. But if you don’t, here’s the tl;dr version of it: Some bottom-feeding scumbags have figured out that they can use perfectly legal methods to take over the lives of elderly people and essentially strip mine the value left in their lives. They steal whatever capital they have left and lock them up in institutions who collect payment from their own estates to hold them in captivity. It’s one of the sickest schemes I’ve ever heard of and it’s all perfectly legal.

Everyone is in on it. From the “guardians” who perpetrate the scams, to the lawyers and judges who stamp it with the legitimacy of the legal system, to the employees and managers of the nursing homes who collect their paychecks knowing full well who’s footing the bill.

In both of these cases, the trivial case of my $50 gym membership, and the millions of dollars and lives destroyed by these scammers you have people who “Don’t make the policies” and are just doing their jobs.

At some point people have to stand up and decide that they won’t be part of an exploitative system. What if the gym manager said to her bosses, “Sorry, I don’t feel ethical charging people for 2 months of membership they don’t want”? What if the owners or managers of the nursing home refused to accept business from these “guardians” who had stolen the lives of these elderly folks?

Let me be clear on this, as you’re probably wondering “Hey, you own a gym, do you put your money where your mouth is?” We gave up on contracts years ago because I was never willing to hold anyone to the contract. I won’t do refunds, but I’ll cancel a membership any time up to the day before the billing date, no questions asked. It’s simply the right thing to do, and as a bonus I don’t put any of my employees in the shitty position of having to say “Sorry, it’s the policy, I don’t make the rules.”

I think it’s good business to do things this way, but I also think it’s being good people.

Bottom line is that systems, good ones and bad ones, are made up of parts and people. It can only take one good person to break a bad system.